Keys to Freedom & Power
Your Resistance is a Mirror and a Tether
Before taking any kind of leap, whether it’s making a life-altering decision, accepting an irrevocable surgical operation, submitting your child to an irreversible medical procedure (or, conversely, declining any of the above), there are two important sets of questions to ask oneself:
a) What are the most logical potential outcomes of making this choice (or not), and by extension, which of those logical potential outcomes can I live with (or not)?
b) How might I feel if someone criticizes, judges, or condemns me for this choice?
“A” is fairly obvious—it’s wise to explore all the potentialities of a given decision as thoroughly as we can, and to interrogate our own long-term motivations and interests.
But “b” offers a more subtle nuance.
When we feel triggered, offended, upset, hurt, or attacked by someone else’s assessment or opinion of our personal choice, we are experiencing what it is to have revealed to us the proof that we ourselves are not at peace with the decision we made.
The very fact of our own activation in response to questioning, criticism, or the airing of a contradictory perspective—especially when we have willingly shared our selected path with another, thus by definition opening ourselves up to the possibility and even the likelihood of differentiation—demonstrates that we lack a foundation of conviction or power in our choice.
Furthermore, the existence of even a hint of outrage, insult, discomfort, annoyance, anger—any form of resistance at all to another person’s conflicting viewpoint in regards to a life-choice that we have made, is the evidence itself that our own energy vortex is oscillating at a concomitant frequency to that of the critic, the doubter, or the one by whom we feel disparaged or threatened.
The truth of the other is mirrored to us in our resistance to it.
Any degree of resistance indicates an existing energetic covenant with that to which we stand in resistance.
The feeling of resistance is a gift; a revelation.
What are you so afraid of?
Where is your doubt located?
What forms of distortion are you still attached to?
There are so many instance in my own life where I’m given the opportunity to unravel and re-assess my continued commitments to victimhood, outrage, and anger.
The evidence of growth however, lies in those areas that no longer hold any kind of charge, or activation.
Not only am I unbothered by the criticisms of others when it comes to my choices in pregnancy, birth, mothering, or the health decisions I make for my children, but the negative remarks from family members, acquaintances, or strangers no longer even really seem to enter my vortex of energy—and for that reason too, I think it’s also true that they occur with far less objective frequency.
It’s only when we ourselves are struggling with the choices we’ve made, and with the inevitable fact that the responsibility for those choices (and their logical outcomes) that we could possibly be bothered by what others think.
Affront and indignation are expressions of impotence, denial and infantilization.
When we can move beyond reactivity, we are free.
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