If you’ve given birth at home and you managed to avoid having someone rip your baby out of your body with barbecue tongs (“forceps”) or a literal vacuum, chances are your yoni will heal automatically, and heal best without any additional “treatment” of any kind.
It’s wonderful to see that so many more women are recognizing the harm that is often done by suturing—additional inflammation, nerve damage, unnecessarily prolonged healing, and even maladaptive restructuring causing long-term pain during sex.
So many mothers are now seeing that foregoing sutures (in the context of undisturbed birth at home) often allows our bodies to reintegrate much more easily, more quickly, and with fewer problems over time.
But the urge to pathologize is strong, and I see so many women stepping away from suturing, only to replace that practice with what I think of as a kind of allopathic herbalism, missing an opportunity to experience truly spontaneous healing.
Here’s the thing about perineal tears:
You don’t need bees.
You don’t need honey.
You don’t need seaweed.
You need only the knowing that your body was made for this.
You need only the embodied consciousness that your healing is present, and inevitable.
It’s very strange to me that people are still functioning under the assumption that an insect can create a substance that is somehow better at healing our human bodies than our own imaginal cells.
What do you think blood, pus, and mucous are for, anyway?
Cervical fluid contains fat, fatty acids, prostaglandins, trace minerals, proteins, enzyme inhibitors and immunoglobulins.
Blood carries oxygen and nutrients to the parts of our bodies that are undergoing restoration, immediately.
Our cells heal our cells.
Our bodies heal themselves.
Yes, our yonis need time to recover after birth.
But the healing process itself does not need fixing, alteration, or amendments.
The human body creates exactly what we require for healing, from within.
The fact that so many women who have wild pregnancies, who freebirth, and who express an interest in removing themselves from the industrial medical model feel the need to put honey and seaweed all over their yonis postpartum, is in my view a testament to how deep allopathic conditioning runs.
Our bodies are meant to open, and our yonis are designed to heal spontaneously.
Lacerations can sometimes occur.
This is precisely why the wet centres of our female bodies are supple and elastic and fluid and warm and watery and juicy and this is why we bleed.
Yes, honey and seaweed and whatever else are indeed “natural”.
It’s not that I have any concerns that those substances are going to cause harm—our bodies can handle it all.
And yes, I’m also aware that “studies have been done”, and that in many other cultures and in other places, lots of other people have smeared honey all over the open areas of their skin also, and yes, your grandmother said it was the best thing ever. Sure.
But just because a practice was prevalent aeons ago, or in some far-flung clan at some point, doesn’t mean it’s optimal, or necessary.
And just because “the science” has proven something to be so (within its distorted, authoritarian, fictitiously supremacist construct), doesn’t mean it’s ideal or required.
I don’t doubt that honey does have many benefits.
But why complicate matters?
Our bodies heal best when left alone.
When we can’t resist the compulsion to reform a process (healing) that is intrinsic to our being, we create resistance to that very thing occurring.
Healing is automatic.
Women, we are magnificent.
We make our own honey.
Your body produces its own healing nectar.
So sure, go ahead. Spread Manuka all over your yoni.
But you really don’t need to. (And it’s quite sticky).
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Ahh Yolande, I will forever be grateful that you taught me this during my second pregnancy. Saved me so much pain that I experienced with suturing the first time (for 8 months!). I tell every pregnant woman I know!!
you always make me think - which I appreciate!