Men, Boys, Masculinity, and Birth
Fatherhood is a Choice, Not an Inevitability
Birth is the apex of feminine power.
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Birth is the most fundamental expression of womanhood and motherhood in existence.
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Protection, and the provision of safety and leadership are the office of a man.
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As such, no fully embodied, masculine man would ever question his wife’s birth choices, let alone insist that she give birth in any way infringes on her comfort and sense of safety.
A man who expects a woman to compromise her birth choices to prioritize his own feelings of comfort, safety, and security over hers, or who believes he is entitled to dictate or influence his partner’s birth choices on the basis of his own preferences, is not yet a man.
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He is either still a boy who cannot yet handle the responsibility of what it takes to truly protect, provide for and lead his family, or he a feminized (emasculated) man (or both, to greater or lesser degrees).
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A man who cannot trust his wife to know *exactly* what is right for her and their baby (a baby who, even after birth, is in a totally interdependent and symbiotic relationship with the mother, and who is inseparable from her, body, mind, and soul) is revealing that he lacks trust in is own masculine authority, to allow his woman to simply BE a woman and a mother.
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A man who doubts or objects to the way his wife chooses to give birth is expressing his own profound insecurities and his lack of masculinity and power.
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Only women can give birth. Only women can be mothers. And only men can be fathers. Both have ultimate authority in their distinct, respective domains.
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Unfortunately, women often inadvertently participate in, and encourage emasculation and extended boyhood in their partners, by telling themselves that capitulating to what is often presented as an “equal right” in decision-making over birth choices is what constitutes appropriate wifely respect and “submission” to her husband’s leadership.
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Yet when a woman violates her feminine instincts, especially in the realm of birth, by bypasses her intuition to give birth in alignment with her inner knowing in favour of propping up her husband’s ego to keep the peace or in the name of “equality,” she is actually dishonouring him, seeking to mother him inappropriately (which always backfires), and in the end, she is obstructing the discomfort necessary for both partners to grow into their true polarity in coherence with their respective parental roles.
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The man who does not trust his wife to give birth in exactly the way that is best for their child, is demonstrating that he does not trust her to be a woman or a mother.
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Furthermore, no fully actualized man in touch with his masculine power would ever argue that his wife willingly enter an institution to give birth where she is guaranteed to be sexually assaulted.
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No fully actualized man would ever stand by and watch a stranger repeatedly violate his wife’s genitals and then harm his baby as they’re born.
(My husband Lee and I have created a course called “Freebirth Foundations for Awakened Fathers. It’s $47, and it’s the ideal introduction to navigating new fatherhood for the as-yet uninitiated, or any couple seeking support in navigating birth choices.)
The only reason that so many men are capable, let alone eager to take their wives into the hospital to give birth, is because the psychic castration and institutional cuckholding of men has become the norm, which has led to the near-eradication of a man’s most primal, biological instinct to actually protect their wives and children.
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This has occurred over several generations through a concerted agenda of ideological subversion, cultural programming, and most significantly, by way of the satanic ritual abuse ceremony of industrial birth itself, which, among other things, is designed to arrest cognitive and emotional development, induce a multitude of dependencies, and to psychologically cripple men’s natural inclinations towards courage and integrity—all of which has been highly successful in achieving its objectives.
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And yes, of course—there are also many women whose emotional development is curtailed and who remain in an infantilized state.