First, thank you. I’ve been feeling the urge to write something as bold since becoming a mother myself. I have a part of me that wants to honor all unique experience that we go through as humans and as woman but when it comes to motherhood, i find myself in major cognitive dissonance. It breaks my heart to hear this narrative around maternal regret. Mothering is imo, one of the greatest initiations into conscious living. Mothering offered me a clear choice in how to receive life - total empowerment or total victimhood. The moments where I’ve chosen victim felt like ceding my power completely; blaming my children for MY challenges and ultimately, MY failure to unconditionally self love? Something deep within me couldn’t stand for that. I refuse to take victim stance - as you mention, it’s a total waste of our life force, our magic, and our power to mother. Im dedicated to helping bridge the gap to self love so that we can mother confidently, curiously and consciously and exemplify the same for our children.
Do you think this mother-regret is really a social plan? I too have noticed how popular the topic is suddenly worldwide and how younger generations are so quickly opting out of parenthood. It’s the first time I read that here but wow, it feels chillingly real.
Great writing. Love that last paragraph. I've made lots of mistakes with my 5 kids, but they are my diamonds, my treasure, and I don't begrudge a single second of all the time we spent together. We all grew up together and they are delightful humans. If I can go on a rant for a second, I am super tired of watching "good parents" talk AT their children. What would be wrong with talking WITH their children? Little bodies - amazing, independent people! Apparently a lost art...
First, thank you. I’ve been feeling the urge to write something as bold since becoming a mother myself. I have a part of me that wants to honor all unique experience that we go through as humans and as woman but when it comes to motherhood, i find myself in major cognitive dissonance. It breaks my heart to hear this narrative around maternal regret. Mothering is imo, one of the greatest initiations into conscious living. Mothering offered me a clear choice in how to receive life - total empowerment or total victimhood. The moments where I’ve chosen victim felt like ceding my power completely; blaming my children for MY challenges and ultimately, MY failure to unconditionally self love? Something deep within me couldn’t stand for that. I refuse to take victim stance - as you mention, it’s a total waste of our life force, our magic, and our power to mother. Im dedicated to helping bridge the gap to self love so that we can mother confidently, curiously and consciously and exemplify the same for our children.
Do you think this mother-regret is really a social plan? I too have noticed how popular the topic is suddenly worldwide and how younger generations are so quickly opting out of parenthood. It’s the first time I read that here but wow, it feels chillingly real.
Great writing. Love that last paragraph. I've made lots of mistakes with my 5 kids, but they are my diamonds, my treasure, and I don't begrudge a single second of all the time we spent together. We all grew up together and they are delightful humans. If I can go on a rant for a second, I am super tired of watching "good parents" talk AT their children. What would be wrong with talking WITH their children? Little bodies - amazing, independent people! Apparently a lost art...